Reflective Awakening: The Urgency of Living True to Ourselves

Have you ever ever woken up one day and asked yourself, "Where the heck has all the time gone?" 

Maybe it's me reaching middle-age, or maybe I'm just feeling the weight of January, but I have some morbid news for you---nobody lives forever. The moment you've been waiting for may never come. It's up to you to decide how you want to shape yourself and your future. No more of this "I'll wait until xyz happens before I make this change." That only delays the life that has been waiting for you. 

In this episode, I'm delivering another one of my famous kick-in-the-pants. Listen in to learn how there is no better time than now to start your journey because tomorrow isn't guaranteed. 

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Speaker 1: 0:00

It's time to wake up witches. I'm your host, cat Adams, and I'm here to remind you that, no matter where you're at in life, you're not stuck. Oh, my goodness, it is so good to be back on the mic. It's been a hot minute and first of all, I need to apologize for missing last week. I am so incredibly sorry. That is so not like me. I was just not Feeling well at all. I got sick when I got back from New York and then we were snowed in for a week, and when it snows in the south, everything shuts down, so I had to stay here, which you think, oh, we have so much time. No, bitches. No, because I work from home does not mean I have a lot of time. I also had my daughter at home, so I was like I Was just not good, not doing good, and I'm still not really doing good, and we're gonna talk about that here in a minute. But my apologies, I am incredibly sorry for missing last week. That's what I get for not batch recording. I just, you know, I had my trip in the holidays and everything and I haven't had a weekend to batch record. I'm not batch recording today because I got ish to do, but I will batch record and get the ship properly going soon, but I wanted to apologize first.

Speaker 1: 1:46

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Speaker 1: 2:42

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Speaker 1: 3:40

But let me tell you first a couple things that has been going on with me. I don't think I mentioned this in my last episode. If I did, I'm sorry. It's been a while since I recorded that and I totally forgot what I talked about.

Speaker 1: 3:54

But Go Read the book the power by Naomi Alderman. This freaking book. Oh my god. This is like one of those books that I Would have loved to have written, and I believe I could have written because I have so much feminine rage inside me. Go check out this book if you have feminine rage inside you too. I don't want to spoil it, but I'll just say it's about women evolving To adapt to the violence that we have for men. So women get this power and women get the upper hand. Holy shit balls. It is like glorious to even imagine this world and I mean there's a lot of drama and stuff and you know, maybe some stuff wasn't handled the way I would handle it if I had some power, but it's still good and it's so good they actually made it into a mini series on TV that I think aired Last year.

Speaker 1: 4:58

I watched the first episode. It was okay. I haven't watched anymore cuz I've been in this mood and the book was so good Like I went through it in a week and I was staying up late to read it and Books just don't do that much to me anymore Like it has to be really, really good. So it had me on the edge of my seat. It was so girl power and, yeah, the show. I just Now that I've read the book. I was excited to watch the show but then I got in this weird funk and it was stressing me out. So that's that.

Speaker 1: 5:34

I have been doing my like de-stressing thing at night. You know where I'm having my little mocktail or my cookie and my hot cocoa or whatever and just trying to decompress because I Don't know. I heard the term gentle January in December and I'm like I'm gonna give myself a gentle January and I'm trying, but I think just a bunch of shit hit me at once and I don't know what's going on. I don't know if it's like midlife or whatnot, but the today, the show, will be about like get your ass up, get moving, stop wasting your years. And that's coming from like me and my funk and what I'm feeling and like I Don't know. I don't know. I have this Restless energy inside me and it's not like that restless energy when you're in alignment and things are falling into place. I've only had that two, maybe three times in my life. When I did this like Manifestation journey which, if you don't know about, go back in the previous episodes we talked about manifestation I was not planning on doing it this year. I didn't even create a vision board this year, y'all. Because I'm like this year I need to take care of myself, because I have Like ran myself into the ground.

Speaker 1: 6:55

Since my divorce, I have published 20 books. Okay, I've been divorced like three and a half, four years, something around there. I have published 20 books. I have done a lot of podcasts. That was started last year, but I have tried to do it every single week. I think I've only missed two when I'm being last week. So, apologies, there I have done.

Speaker 1: 7:24

I started a freelance business. I have, like, oh my god, three or four different websites. Business is going. I volunteer I recently signed on to volunteer with BTSADV for six months, because they do like six months interval. So I'm learning there and that's Break the Silence Against Domestic Violence, and last week I was a guest on their podcast that's gonna air on YouTube. I don't know when sometime in February but you'll get to see me talking on YouTube about Break the Silence for Domestic Violence. I'll let you know more when I am no more. But yeah, so I have also started working full-time after being a stay-at-home mom and in that time I've gotten I have lost track it's five or six promotions in the past two years because I've been with this company for two years.

Speaker 1: 8:21

So I learned last week and this is, you know, wasn't last week, I think it was a week before last, yeah, it was a week before last when I was doing the guest speaker thing and then I had got my merit increase, reward stuff for my previous work in 2023, which was awesome because I revolutionized my department. And then I won a freaking award. We have this like quarterly award that goes out called a Legacy Award. I do like people who have the firm's core values in mind and like have just killed it, basically, and I am very achievement driven. I've been winning that award, y'all, and I'm like I gotta get that award One day. I want to get that award. I freaking got that award and like they my amazing co-workers and leaders who nominated me for that award had the kindest things to say about me y'all, because they do this whole video honoring you and they were just like you know, I'm an inspiration.

Speaker 1: 9:33

I'm an advocate. Like where I work, I do some advocate work and outside of work, obviously, all this stuff I do advocacy work and I just like broke down crime and yeah, I held it in. I had a resting bitch face when I accepted that award, because it's like I was on a team's call with you know, like four or five hundred other people, I think, I don't know. There's a lot of people in there and I was trying so hard not to cry, so I probably look like a bitch, but it was just because I was holding back tears. So I got that award and then I got a promotion and I start my new job tomorrow, or my new role same company.

Speaker 1: 10:13

Now I will be doing heading up not just one department but two, maybe three in the future, and I have like I'm breaking down y'all, like I am doing too much and that's hard for me to admit and I know I've said it before but at this point I can't. I can't do a vision board, I can't do manifestation, I have put any writing on pause. I'm concentrating on learning, like operational stuff for my job, because that is what brings me in the money. I am concentrating on outside volunteer work because I want to make those connections and I want to learn more about the industry and domestic violence and like the nonprofit area, and so I'm doing all the stuff at once and I know I'm forgetting stuff in there. Like y'all. I'm also doing the wife and mom things. You know I'm trying to be a mom to a preteen. She'll be 13 here in April and we have no vacations plan this year, because this year is just like hunkering down, focusing on ourselves, paying some bills off, and I don't know how I'm gonna survive, because you know how I feel about being here in the south, so I think it's all just like getting to me.

Speaker 1: 11:32

Plus, I quit drinking. Well, I didn't quit drinking. I became sober. Curious, I did dry January, not gonna lie. I had champagne. And then I went out to Mexican and had a margarita and celebrated when I got my promotion and my legacy award. And that week I was the guest speaker because I felt good. I felt good and that I felt very grateful and accomplished.

Speaker 1: 11:56

But I have this restless energy y'all I don't know where it's coming from and it's not. It's not a bad energy, but it's not a good like something amazing is about to happen, manifestation energy, which I know you're like bitch, you just got promotion, award, like merit stuff. You're doing guest speaker, but with something. Something's just unsettling me right now and I don't know. I don't know like I'm truly trying to slow down this year and take the time to figure out what's going on and to build myself and to build what I really where I really want to go, and that takes a lot of thought. So I can't be like producing, producing, producing and you know, going, going, going and everything I've been doing. I just I don't have a capacity in me right now. So I am working on everything I have on my plate and putting putting some stuff on Paul's, mainly like expectations from myself, and I'm just going with the flow. This year is just I'm going with the flow, or at least I'm trying to. So I've got you know, I did my whole office makeover.

Speaker 1: 13:17

Part of this unsettled energy is now I want to do my whole house and if you know me, I'm always I need to create. I am a creative. If you know anything about the in your room, I'm a four-wing three to a tee. My friggin environment, my surroundings affect me so much like I need a beautiful aesthetic Atmosphere, I Know. Is that some bratty like? Does that sound? Oh, your so spoiled Blah, blah, blah.

Speaker 1: 13:52

No, it's not about like a luxury whatever, like we've been thrifting, we have been antiquing. I just need more me in this house. And this house is like the gray walls, the white kitchen, all that stuff. I'm so freaking sick of it. And so I'm like I want to redo the great room, I want to do the bedroom, I'm gonna tear this carpet up, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do that. And then the other part of me is like no, you want to move, you want to sell this house. Stop, you know, stop doing that. But I'm like we're still up in the air when we can move, because several different reasons, and so I'm like, if I'm gonna stay here and I need to fix it up. But so I'm going back and forth and I have this energy inside me where I need to create something and Not mental create something. I need to create something with my hands in this house and it's been bothering me shit out of me. And I think a lot of that's going back to what today's topic is about. I know it's 15 minutes in, but today's topic is about Getting off your ass and stop wasting your time and I know I've done a couple episodes about this Because it is so freaking true.

Speaker 1: 15:08

I have wasted so many years. I wasted 15 of my best years, from the time I was 20 to 35, being a servant to a man who treated me like shit. I could have been creating all the things. If I look, if I can create what I have created in the past 234 years and that 15 years, holy shit, maybe I could be a millionaire by now. All right, cuz I know myself and I I get shit done. Obviously I Like I love doing outreach stuff. I could have changed more lives. I could have just Fucking been amazing, but I wasted 15 years, all right, and I see people around me all the time they're wasting away too.

Speaker 1: 15:54

So yesterday was rough. Yesterday I went to Arkansas to visit my mom. I have not been over to her house in over 10 years. I was like her birthday is coming up. You know I need to do something good. So me and my daughter, my husband, went to go visit my mom. On the way back, our battery light came on about three hours. She lives about three hours from my house and we're stupid. Okay. We were like, oh, okay, we'll just like get a new battery when we get home. We got stuck in fucking Earl Arkansas, all right, I, it was cold, it was raining, earl Arkansas, there's like nothing there. Thankfully we made it to a gas station, but we were out in the middle of bump back and it was rough, like almost had a breakdown, because who wants to get stuck in like the middle of nowhere? And your car, it's cold, your cars, dad and Plus, like, oh my god, I just put a new tire on that car and like you know, money, money, money is every time I turn around like spending money and I'm trying to like get my shit together and I was just not having it. Thankfully, I have a great support system, like my dad. I can call him up and he will be there no matter what, and he was. He drove all the way over there To help me, and my uncle, who lived not too far from Earl, also came to help me. So like I'm super grateful, grateful for having that support system.

Speaker 1: 17:43

Now, when my uncle picked me up, he had some words of wisdom. We were talking about age. He's like, oh, you're 40 now and I was like, yeah, he's like, oh, that's not bad, it's not bad. 50s is when it gets bad. So, enjoy those 10 years. And he was being he wasn't being malicious, but he was being like kind of serious too, you know, but he was, he's so easygoing. This uncle is so easygoing, he's great. He's like, oh, it'll be okay, it'll, you know, it'll be okay, everything's gonna turn out. And then yada, yada, yada. But I'm like, shit, enjoy those 10 years. 10 years that goes by so fast. And my husband just turned 45 last week and so he's like Shit, I got five years Now. I know the end of the world is not when you turn 50, but that's it. If you think about that number, that's like oh, 50.

Speaker 1: 18:41

Now we want to do things like climb mountains and I don't know. Like Not anything crazy, like skydiving, but active shit. And we have lived in Tennessee our whole lives and you know where I'm getting at this. We want to move to the Pacific Northwest and we are like growing older and we're not gonna be able to do the active things that we have wanted to do our whole life Because we have wasted so many years. We have wasted so many years and, if you think about it, five and ten years goes by so Freakin fast, so freaking fast. I can't believe my daughter is almost 13. Like, it seems like she was a baby yesterday and in five years she's gonna be 18. She's gonna be an adult. Oh my god. Like. And I'm gonna be 45.

Speaker 1: 19:33

Now I know people are like when you turn 40, stuff starts falling apart and you're like, haha, they're being so funny. Oh my god, it's true, it's true, that's also probably part of my phone. Like I've been having some elements, y'all Some elements, and I'm like no, and I think it's hitting me hard that fuck, I better get home with shit, like I'm not going to be you know this Person who can like physically, do all this stuff for so long, like I have been. I'm running at 150 miles an hour the past four years since my divorce and I've been loving it, but I Don't have that much Like Time and I know there's people listening to this and I'm like now you do to your 60 and 70. No, seriously, like I want to do this stuff before I'm 50 because the the truth is your, your body does change. It really changes, and you can't stop it.

Speaker 1: 20:38

Like Two days after my husband turned 45. He's like had he woke up at three in the morning with this really horrible pain in his hip and and I mean he was like, oh my gosh, the last he said that happened before and he had a good physical therapy for it when he was younger. But he's like, oh my gosh. And then he was happy and he was hurt and he was like, oh my gosh, it's the start. It's a start like we're not gonna be capable of doing the things that we've always done at some point in our life and that point is Coming closer and closer to all of us. Now. You might not want to hike up mountains or go kayaking 10 miles and a choppy river and that's fun. But the point is your life is still getting closer and closer and closer to death, that was more. It's getting closer and closer to a time where you will be too Old to do some of those things.

Speaker 1: 21:46

And I know people say at any age you can write a book. You know most bestsellers start when people are 52 and yeah, all that stuff for sure. But you have to start now. You have to make changes now. I know plenty of people, plenty of people that are older, in their 70s, 80s and even 90s, even 90s. We know someone in their 90s who has regrets. They're like I wish I could have gone out west when I was younger. I wish I could have seen all that. I wish I could have seen the mountains, I wish I could have, you know, like, Hiked through redwood forest and seen all the national parks. But they can't now because they have mobility issues and that's gotta suck.

Speaker 1: 22:42

Can you imagine knowing like Death is at any time coming? If you're, you know, up there in years, death is coming at any time and there's things on this earth that you didn't get to do Now that doesn't bother some people because they are religious and they feel like their reward is an afterlife. Me, I'm not religious, so the afterlife is just black and so I need to do this shit now and so do you, no matter what you believe. And I'm not talking just about like these people that are older and they have all these regrets, and especially especially oh my gosh, I know older women who are like They've been in just these dead marriages for so long and it, you know, their husband will die or whatever, and they're like I don't ever want another man. I'm blah, blah, blah. I think fun.

Speaker 1: 23:43

It's like you. You cheated yourself out of a, a life of Passion and joy in a marriage that was just so like Fire. Basically because you can get that, trust me, you can get that. I have that and I Will scream it from the rooftops. Like I've been in a dead marriage and you know, four years still with my man and it's Like still not even face All right and it's not gonna let up because we were both committed to that and you can find that. You can find that and there's people who go through their whole life without that and that freaking sucks. You're cheating yourself out of these years. You have like because you're complacent or or scared to make a change, because you're stuck. Right, you feel like you're stuck but we're not. We are not stuck and I've been trying to figure out like when this podcast is going in the future, like my mission, and I've got all that now down and remember I was talking about like how, when the first early episodes I wanted to be more about, you know, women empowerment instead of about Men and toxic men.

Speaker 1: 25:12

But there will be coming up. We'll be going through the book by Matt Lundy. Why does he do that? Because I think you need to know what's going on with your toxic partner who's keeping you in these situations. At the same time, I'm still building you up and trying to Help you realize why you're keeping yourself in these situations, so kind of got sidetracked there. But that is coming up because you need to know everything about the situation. You know what's going on in his mind and what's going on in your mind and I'm telling you right now Think about it. I don't know how old you are, I don't know.

Speaker 1: 25:49

I think I've got listeners of all different ages, but I think most of them are in their 30s, 40s and I think people don't slow down enough to realize You're not gonna be on this earth forever, like, really, unfortunately, you're not going to be on this earth forever. You don't know when your time is coming. And I've lost a handful of people over the past year, surprisingly, like people out of nowhere, like Even young people, and I'm thinking, oh my gosh, like Did they? You know? I hope they live their life to the fullest. I know some of them probably did not and now it's gone.

Speaker 1: 26:39

And I think you need to get morbid like that. I think you really need to get morbid and think about your own mortality and how you have a limited time to do stuff. You have a limited time before not even before you die, but before you get too old to do stuff and that starts happening. It truly does in your 40s. They don't call it over the hill just to be funny. Like, seriously, a lot of stuff in your body it just goes to shit in your 40s and it doesn't recover. Don't be like other people who wait and wait and wait until the right time. Don't be like me, who wasted my best years y'all 20 to 35. I was stuck in that toxic shit. I could have been exploring the world, I could have been like, oh my God, I could have had like 100 books written in that time. You know, like seriously, that's not even exaggerating, maybe even more because I'm pretty prolific when I get to start writing. But yeah, that's what I wanted to talk about today.

Speaker 1: 27:51

Just, I was going to start on the book by Matt Lundy, because I've been reading it and taking notes so I can share it with y'all, and it's got some good stuff in there. It's all, like you know, inside the mind of an abuser which, if you haven't read this book, go pick it up. I'm going to give a lot of notes on it here in the next several episodes. But it's you are going to ask yourself all the time like I don't understand. I know I said this in my abusive marriage. All the time, I don't understand, I don't understand. You know what is it about me? It's going to explain all this and just I think it should be required reading for every single woman for all. But we'll get onto that in a bit.

Speaker 1: 28:37

I just needed to get this out now because of this horrible energy I have been feeling and I'm trying to figure that out myself. So I've been just struggling with like I do too much and I only have a limited number of years left to be like as physical as I want to be. And you know that also plays into mental space. I'm trying to figure out where I'm going. Like I feel stuck. I feel stuck in Tennessee and a lot of people are like, oh well, it's not so bad. Yeah, if you're not from the South, I don't think people quite understand the quality of life here. I really don't Like. If you are a person who does not fit into status quo here, it's mentally damaging and that drains you physically.

Speaker 1: 29:45

The people in the deep South they build their life around politics and religion. You can't have a conversation with someone without them bringing up let's go, brandon, or how they love the convicted rapist Trump. I'm serious. Strangers and because I'm white people also love to talk to me about black people and Mexicans and how they're ruining everything. I'm serious. They're openly racist here and they identify and label themselves their whole existence is based on I can't think of the word I'm looking for is based on politics and it is a challenge being around that. And also they throw religion into it too. You have to belong to churches. It's very culty and then the churches lead into the politics and you can't even have a conversation with strangers without them interjecting things like that. God and Jesus is coming back, and the deeper in the South you go, the more fucked up it is. The end of the world is coming. I've been hearing that my whole life. The end of the world is coming tomorrow. You better get yourself right with Jesus. The racist shit. It's truly like that. If you have not been to the South, I do not recommend going Now. Are there good places and good people in the South? Fuck, yes, yes, as is anywhere, right, but it is a different world and I didn't know how different until I started traveling, which a lot of people around here should do to open up their eyes.

Speaker 1: 31:45

It doesn't matter what you tell these people. You can say this guy is blue, but they literally have Fox News playing on the background. You know how subliminals work. We've talked about subliminals. I love subliminals. It's like you know when you're listening to beautiful music but in the background someone's whispering like you're going to be a millionaire, you're going to be a millionaire. Fox News is their subliminals. They have it going 24-7. Even if they're not absorbing it, even if they're cooking or whatever and talking. It's subliminally in their head going about how, like you know, you should be controlled by fear. All right, like you, fear motivates you. Be afraid of lefties, be afraid of women, be afraid of black people in Mexicans. Oh my gosh, you know the world's going to just explode if you don't shout your you love Jesus. I don't know, it is like that down here.

Speaker 1: 32:44

No-transcript, and for anybody who's like, yes, again, there's pockets and places like that aren't so bad. But also, like you know, I'm not even getting into the crime. I'm not even getting to the crime. I'm not getting to the quality of education I'm not getting into. There's not shit here to do because it's the south and there's no like beautiful mountains Now, you have beautiful mountains and like Gatlinburg and Asheville and areas around there, yes, but also it's still, you know, you're in mega territory, which Is just a quality of life I cannot get behind.

Speaker 1: 33:21

Seriously, when we were driving through Arkansas yesterday, I saw billboards that was like Do you know where you're going when you die, which is intimidation and religious abuse. Let me just say that, and I see this all the time whenever we're driving around the south, there's, like you know, god's watching you billboards and I saw one one time when we were going through actually I think it was Kansas, it was a billboard and it was just like a really angry looking Jesus going through the cornfields. I don't know why, he just looked really angry. Anyways, religious abuse Hello, we've talked about that before and intimidation. And then also we saw some sign that was like deposit Biden votes here, and it was like in this middle of a field whole thing, and lots of you know Trump, trumpy flags, and I've seen billboards that say like white radio, it's not even a thing. It sounds so KKK-ish and just everywhere like let's go, brandon. You know, fuck Joe Biden.

Speaker 1: 34:21

And when I've been out west, I didn't see that. I didn't see anything like that On the on the blue side of places. Now I went through some red places out west and I saw it. I was like, ooh, I feel like I run the South again.

Speaker 1: 34:33

But anyways, I don't know I'm getting off here because I said I feel stuck in Tennessee and a lot of people are like, well, you know, that might not be so bad for me. It's bad because I do not Subscribed any of those beliefs and ways of life and I don't. That's not my values. So, yes, for me it is very damaging and bad. And I have to tell myself I'm not stuck. I can make. I can make Action steps to get out of here, which I am doing, you know. But I think it's also part of that restless energy. I'll say it's an election year, so that doesn't help. So I'm figuring my shit out while you figure your shit out. And we both know now that we have a limited number of years to figure this shit out and the longer we wait, the closer we edge toward getting to a point where it's too late to figure our shit out.

Speaker 1: 35:25

I don't care what anybody says like, oh, you can go back to school when you're 70, blah. But who the fuck wants to go back to school to get a degree, to earn more money when you're 70? Because what, you're gonna earn more money when you're 70? You're gonna be making like six figures with this new degree which we all know in America. That's bullshit, because that whole degree stuff is the line. You're just gonna be in student debt. But say, you feel like you're gonna be making six figures when you're 70. What the fuck are you gonna do without six figures? Like you're 70, like you can't go out, you know, and go on like a week-long hike to Mount Olympia or whatever, I don't know. Give it to your kids. That's a noble cause, I agree with that one.

Speaker 1: 36:04

But come on, you can enjoy life as much when you're Older, you just can't. I mean, you can enjoy it but it's not gonna be, it's not the same and I don't care who ever is like oh, you know it is, and you can still Know there's definitely cons and stuff that's gonna slow you down and you can't get around that. So why, you're young and able Mentally and physically, get your ass up and start making change. Do the shit you want to do, starting now, not saying, oh, I'm waiting till Monday to start my diet, no bitch, you're gonna do it now. You're going to start crushing those goals today. You're gonna make a plan and you're not gonna wait any longer. Because I'm being real with you and other people are like toxic positivity and oh, you know, you've got all this time on earth. You don't, you don't, and that's all I got today.

Speaker 1: 36:57

I'm sorry if this was a morbid Podcast. It was like out of the blue for me. I truly is gonna talk about these toxic men today, but I need you to know some of these lessons I've learned in the past year. Don't be like me. Don't hit your 40s and you're like, wow, I've got a handful of years left to do the physical things I want to do, because that's a life goal for me. Might not be for you and that's okay, but I Could have done that in those 15 years.

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I was stuck in a shitty ass marriage. I could have been being this person I am today, who's rare and ready to go and loving life and being in this passionate, loving marriage with a support system and Doing all these things. And I Did not get to do that and it was just. You know it sucks. You get regrets and you need to live your life with no regrets. So get started today. I Hope you can't relate to this at all because I don't want that for you, but if you can relate to this, I hope you found these little words of wisdom and these nuggets I've given you to be helpful, because You're not stuck, but you are Getting old bitch. So Get your shit together and go fucking live your life. Thank you so much for listening.

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